Reviewing a Mentor Relationship

Reviewing a Mentor Relationship

Here are some questions to use. Have you:

  • Clearly defined the task?
  • Clarified your expectations regarding the process, the time commitment and so on?
  • Voiced those core values in communication that you consider significant?
  • Considered how effective your mentor has been at creating a ‘safe’ or ‘sacred’ space that enables you to explore issues at more than a superficial level? If you identify concerns in this respect, have you considered how you can alter the way you relate?
  • Negotiated the ground rules and established a ‘contract’ or ‘covenant’?
  • Identified the goals that you will strive to achieve?
  • Taken the time to do an ‘accountability attitude check’?
    • ‘Am I being completely open and accountable in the areas we’ve agreed to explore’?
    • ‘Have I given my mentor permission to ask the tough questions….and then, within the boundaries we’ve set, been willing to engage with these issues when my mentor does take this step, even where this is uncomfortable or painful?”’
    • ‘Am I willing to invest in the ongoing prayer and reflection to work on the issues we highlight in our sessions?”
    • ‘Am I consistently following through on the agreed action?’
    • ‘Is there mutual accountability? Is my mentor taking the initiative to express interest and follow up about ongoing issues or agreed actions?’
  • Developed the habit of arriving for your mentor session with questions to discuss? It is important to be intentional and to maximise the value of your time together.