Qualities of a Good Mentor
Not every mentor has all the qualities listed below; you’ll be searching for ever if you’re looking for someone with everything in this package! Please consider those qualities that are priorities for you in this stage of investing in your growth as a leader. Note that mentors registered with the Mentor Network have to sign up to its values and ethical framework.
Here is some food for thought…
- Christ-centred – someone who deeply desires to put the purposes of Jesus Christ above and beyond everything else in life, living a life fully surrendered to the Lordship of Christ, confident of their identity in him and demonstrating godly character that is worth imitating – and committed to encouraging others to live a Christ-centred life
- Operates out of a biblical grid – demonstrates a high value of the authority of Scripture and seeks to live and lead by biblical principles
- Passionate about seeing God transform the lives of others
- Authenticity and integrity – a person who models what they speak about …who ‘walks the talk’
- Servant heart and mindset – ‘humility of spirit’
- Patient – recognising that growth in character and competency requires time, experience and multiple opportunities to reflect and learn and explore how to implement new insights
- Track record in empowering, equipping and releasing people in ministry – facilitating learning in others
- Track record in maintaining confidentiality
- Open and transparent
- Good relational skills and emotional maturity
- Demonstrates flexibility in responding to differences in people’s leadership style, personality & context
- Able to listen with sensitivity, discernment, objectivity, empathy and wisdom – and where appropriate comfortable with silence
- Available – not obviously over-committed nor constantly stressed and frazzled
- ‘Grace Giver’ – the art of empowering or encouraging someone in their ministry
- ‘Truth Teller’ – courage to ‘speak the truth in love’.
- An awareness of the ‘power of the question’ with an ability to ask probing, insightful, wise and at times tough questions
- Willing to be committed to a person, process and purpose
- Someone who will walk with you and encourage you to assume the responsibility for your circumstances and challenges
- Not threatened by competence – encouraging you to develop beyond their capacity or giftedness
- Chemistry – a vital component! If you don’t connect with synergy, it is unlikely the mentor relationship will explore in great depth the issues which are significant to you.
- Networked – able to connect you to people and resources that will expand the depth of your ministry